February 2010 Archives
I don't like to ever even think of the negative; let alone focus on it...so I will merely gloss over some minute details leading up to now and fill you in on a few quick things, as well as entertain you with my OCD and that which manifests from it when I am stressed -lists; before wandering off into a heavenly abyss for the next 3 weeks....but with the luck I've had over the last week, maybe never coming back.
First, to start off....
List #1: Things I didn't expect about Kuala Lumpur
1. The massively large Muslim population (which is visibly apparent via the head scarves and in some cases full Burka's)
2. The massively large Chinese population (which is aurally apparent by not only their loudness but also they language that they chose to yell at eachother and into their cellphone's in; as well as visually apparent as most signage is in Malaysian and Chinese - not English)
3. They drive on the wrong side of the road
4. KL is a country, not a city (not literally but i spent an hour on a bus then an hour in the subway just to get to the downtown core)
5. The Indian influence (seen in the food the clothing, the architecture, and the people's faces)
Now onto the goods....
The last three days have been hellish to put it mildly. I lost my favorite and only Roots sweatshirt. Lived in an airport for 3 days and 2 nights unvoluntarily. Found myself yelling at another human beiing and then of course feeling horrible for it (I remember thinking while doing so that I was mad as I have been in years....since my last encounter with Steven, of all things, over 2 summers ago). Missed a flight (which was not my fault, hence me yelling at someone). Bought a new flight. Arrived into Bali and like a pro had my 25USD ready, busted through immigration and out to...oh what? Yeah, they lost my bags.
At this point, I had to admit to myself I was in a very low slump. And I really had to admit I couldn't feel worse. I hate to admit these things to myself. It is like I let life win the battle. It doesn't help I'd bee a bit low since spending my bday all alone AND THEN finding out Cat wouldn't be back to Bali until the 16th and I'd be alone for ANOTHER week. So I was sulking a bit. My only solace was, yes, it really couldn't get much worse.
So...... after filling out the appropriate paper work, and praying to the Hindu God of Luggage, I got out to the sunshine and got an amazing hug from Kadek (sometimes that's all ya really need) and we went home, got a bit settled, got me a phone card (# 0858-5751-8105), then I bee-lined it to PAdang PAdang (my old stomping grounds, watch for me on this webcam). I parked 1km away to give myself a walk. And was still a bit stressed from the whole ordeal. But I dropped my shoes off with the Kopi lady and after the typical pleasantries and one unexpected one (she asked me where I bought my besar while poking my boob, which made me laugh (my first spontaneous laugh all day)) I walked to the water in my dress (no clothes, remember) and when my foot made contact with the water it was like everything just left my body. Everything was right again. Everything in life is good. I almost cried! And then I swam around for an hour or so. Went out to the break to chat with the surfers; walked along the beach to find any sort of science geek stuff possible; and then bought some sunscreen (yep, a few hours late).
(sorry for the quality of these pics, btw....along with my life's necessities for a month was my camera in the bags. So I took this pic with my computer's camera...but I think you get the jist...I am smiling again!)
List #2: Things I'd Forgotten About Bali (you may want to go back and read the Bali post of me experiencing Bali for the first time in order to understand the quick references)
-stray dogs (aside: one must stay particularly alert whilst driving a mo-ped in a 3rd world country)
-Absolute Petrol
-"English" where you go? what doing?
-Kopi and the price of it and Bintang (there is a God)
-the most wonderful people in the world and their absolutely heart melting smiles
-The staring (undressing) with the eyes (or rather, that I might actually be an attractive woman and not the zoo animal I am made to feel in China)
- How slowly things change (or rather, how quickly China is changing)
List #3: Some Surprises
- I get freckles (and apparently burn in 5 minutes, proof in pic above)
- I found myself thinking on the road to Cat's "i'm home".
A note about point #2; list #3....What a strange thing to say to yourself..... but I guess I have to think a bit more about what I meant by that; and moreover what it might mean for my intentions in the future. For now, as I mentioned to an American I met at my hostel in Xian last weekend when she asked me where I call home:
'Home?, I guess for me, home is where my computer is.'
First, to start off....List #1: Things I didn't expect about Kuala Lumpur
1. The massively large Muslim population (which is visibly apparent via the head scarves and in some cases full Burka's)
2. The massively large Chinese population (which is aurally apparent by not only their loudness but also they language that they chose to yell at eachother and into their cellphone's in; as well as visually apparent as most signage is in Malaysian and Chinese - not English)
3. They drive on the wrong side of the road
4. KL is a country, not a city (not literally but i spent an hour on a bus then an hour in the subway just to get to the downtown core)
5. The Indian influence (seen in the food the clothing, the architecture, and the people's faces)
Now onto the goods....
The last three days have been hellish to put it mildly. I lost my favorite and only Roots sweatshirt. Lived in an airport for 3 days and 2 nights unvoluntarily. Found myself yelling at another human beiing and then of course feeling horrible for it (I remember thinking while doing so that I was mad as I have been in years....since my last encounter with Steven, of all things, over 2 summers ago). Missed a flight (which was not my fault, hence me yelling at someone). Bought a new flight. Arrived into Bali and like a pro had my 25USD ready, busted through immigration and out to...oh what? Yeah, they lost my bags.
At this point, I had to admit to myself I was in a very low slump. And I really had to admit I couldn't feel worse. I hate to admit these things to myself. It is like I let life win the battle. It doesn't help I'd bee a bit low since spending my bday all alone AND THEN finding out Cat wouldn't be back to Bali until the 16th and I'd be alone for ANOTHER week. So I was sulking a bit. My only solace was, yes, it really couldn't get much worse.
So...... after filling out the appropriate paper work, and praying to the Hindu God of Luggage, I got out to the sunshine and got an amazing hug from Kadek (sometimes that's all ya really need) and we went home, got a bit settled, got me a phone card (# 0858-5751-8105), then I bee-lined it to PAdang PAdang (my old stomping grounds, watch for me on this webcam). I parked 1km away to give myself a walk. And was still a bit stressed from the whole ordeal. But I dropped my shoes off with the Kopi lady and after the typical pleasantries and one unexpected one (she asked me where I bought my besar while poking my boob, which made me laugh (my first spontaneous laugh all day)) I walked to the water in my dress (no clothes, remember) and when my foot made contact with the water it was like everything just left my body. Everything was right again. Everything in life is good. I almost cried! And then I swam around for an hour or so. Went out to the break to chat with the surfers; walked along the beach to find any sort of science geek stuff possible; and then bought some sunscreen (yep, a few hours late).
(sorry for the quality of these pics, btw....along with my life's necessities for a month was my camera in the bags. So I took this pic with my computer's camera...but I think you get the jist...I am smiling again!)
List #2: Things I'd Forgotten About Bali (you may want to go back and read the Bali post of me experiencing Bali for the first time in order to understand the quick references)
-stray dogs (aside: one must stay particularly alert whilst driving a mo-ped in a 3rd world country)
-Absolute Petrol
-"English" where you go? what doing?
-Kopi and the price of it and Bintang (there is a God)
-the most wonderful people in the world and their absolutely heart melting smiles
-The staring (undressing) with the eyes (or rather, that I might actually be an attractive woman and not the zoo animal I am made to feel in China)
- How slowly things change (or rather, how quickly China is changing)
List #3: Some Surprises
- I get freckles (and apparently burn in 5 minutes, proof in pic above)
- I found myself thinking on the road to Cat's "i'm home".
A note about point #2; list #3....What a strange thing to say to yourself..... but I guess I have to think a bit more about what I meant by that; and moreover what it might mean for my intentions in the future. For now, as I mentioned to an American I met at my hostel in Xian last weekend when she asked me where I call home:
'Home?, I guess for me, home is where my computer is.'
And the month of February is upon us. This to me of course means two very important things:
1. My birthday (aka birthweek or birthmonth; this year spanning from Jan 27 to Feb 10)
2. Chinese New Year (aka Spring Festival; this year beginning Feb 14).
Not only because today is my birthday but also because this is MY blog, for this post I am going to talk all about ME! (some of you are saying: "what's new?" right?)
I have spent a decade now as an independent adult. Most of this entails making bad decisions and big mistakes. But through all of that I've seemed to become more and more satisfied, happy, at peace, and closer to my goal of being a wise old woman who makes the world a better place. Is it just me or do other people not have these sort of goals? Am I in a minority of people who chose to assess their life in the amount of time I can laugh with someone in a day? Or am I just crazy? A crazy wise old happy woman is a fine goal to have.
I was lying in bed last night thinking about this last decade of my life. I was wondering how one sums up a life; a decade; a year. But more importantly I was curious to know how other people do this. As a scientist I automatically want to break it down into parts - Is life to be qualitatively or quantitatively assessed? How should it be analyzed? It seems to me like many people determine 'success' and quality of life based on quantitative measurements: how much money they have accrued; how many friends they have; how many places they've been to visit; how many shoes they have; their education; their job's status; how much they weight, etc. I think this is both ridiculous and useless as it neither reflects a person's success nor happiness.
So then, if I vehemently disagree with this method of judgment, how then do I think one can assess these things? How can we qualitatively assess a year; a decade; a life? I read an article a while ago about the "World's Happiest People". Along with being a very healthy person, I'd have to say a very prominent focus I have for my life is to be one of these sickeningly happy people. The thing is, everyone attains happiness in a different way, right? Furthermore, how can it really be qualitatively analyzed? Like, how do I even know if I am happy or not?
Well, some hot shots are already on it. Below, the happiest countries are in blue, the least happy are in red.
The first place I found reports on happiness indices was of course wikipedia GNH
GNH (gross national happiness) is ideal in my opinion because it is more qualitative.
"GNH refers to the concept of a measurement of well-being and happiness. It is not measured directly, but only the factors which are believed to lead to it. There is no exact quantitative definition of GNH, but elements that contribute to GNH are subject to quantitative measurement. Low rates of infant mortality, for instance, correlate positively with subjective expressions of well-being or happiness within a country. (This makes sense; it is no large leap to assume that premature death causes sorrow.) The practice of social science has long been directed toward transforming subjective expression of large numbers of people into meaningful quantitative data; there is no major difference between asking people "how confident are you in the economy?" and "how satisfied are you with your job?"
The GNH guys have come up with a way to measure happiness. "GNH can be measured using the day reconstruction method, which consists in recollecting memories of the previous working day by writing a short diary. A second-generation GNH concept, treating happiness as a socioeconomic development metric, was proposed in 2006 by Med Jones, the President of International Institute of Management. The metric measures socioeconomic development by tracking 7 development area including the nation's mental and emotional health. GNH value is proposed to be an index function of the total average per capita of the following measures:
1. Economic Wellness: Indicated via direct survey and statistical measurement of economic metrics such as consumer debt, average income to consumer price index ratio and income distribution
2. Environmental Wellness: Indicated via direct survey and statistical measurement of environmental metrics such as pollution, noise and traffic
3. Physical Wellness: Indicated via statistical measurement of physical health metrics such as severe illnesses
4. Mental Wellness: Indicated via direct survey and statistical measurement of mental health metrics such as usage of antidepressants and rise or decline of psychotherapy patients
5. Workplace Wellness: Indicated via direct survey and statistical measurement of labor metrics such as jobless claims, job change, workplace complaints and lawsuits
6. Social Wellness: Indicated via direct survey and statistical measurement of social metrics such as discrimination, safety, divorce rates, complaints of domestic conflicts and family lawsuits, public lawsuits, crime rates
7. Political Wellness: Indicated via direct survey and statistical measurement of political metrics such as the quality of local democracy, individual freedom, and foreign conflicts.
And just when I started thinking facebook is my friend again, I came
across this article on how facebook uses our information to chart a
country's happiness. This article only focused on the US and along with the graph above summarized facebook's findings by
saying, "Despite a deepening recession and prolonged wars, Americans
seemed to be happier in 2009 than 2008."
This to me is slightly frightening but mostly pure entertainment....I mean, one of your happiest days of the year was when pirates were killed? Gotta love America.
Ok, so we are getting somewhere here. A way to analyze our success in life which to me means our happiness. The term 'well-being' is also thrown out there in the literature regarding happiness and success.
Check out this Wired article on the true measure of success or The New York time's Blog
Then there is this map (similar to the one above) I stumbled upon on each country's average well beings.
"The first World Map of Happiness has been published by scholars from the University of Leicester. The map is a global projection of subjective well-being (SWB), taken from a variety of recent sources, and compared with related data from UNESCO, the UN and even the CIA."
Last and certainly not least (I've been building up to this...hope you are not bored yet) the most brilliant of all:
The World's Data Base for Happiness From which one can learn that "Happiness is defined as the degree to which an individual judges the overall quality of his life-as-a-whole favorably. Within this concept two 'components' of happiness are distinguished: hedonic level of affect (the degree to which pleasant affect dominates) and contentment (perceived realization of wants). These components represent respectively 'affective' and 'cognitive' appraisals of life and are seen to figure as subtotals in the overall evaluation of life, called overall happiness."
The most interesting part of this site to me is on a global level looking at the maps
I know, I am a total nerd. Hey, it makes me happy!
Ok, so there are brilliant minds out there who've figured out how to measure and quantify our happiness as nations and the like. But then I wonder if happiness is also linked to brain chemicals; foods/drinks; environment and other such things slightly out of our control. I feel a bit guilty (I learned at a very young age that most people don't like happy people) when I say this but I kinda feel like I am just born to be happy. Or born to see the glass half full. Is it just easier for me than it is for other people? a ted talk if you are super-bored by now
Which brings me to my second point of today: Chinese New Year.
But more importantly, how Chinese New Year relates to ME....
I am a monkey based on the Chinese zodiac. It is frightening how bang-on a history of 5,000 years of observation can be....There isn't a single word I would disagree with in the information below. And if you disagree with some of it, well, frankly, you don't know me well.
Here are Jasmine and I being monkeys.
The 7 words used to describe Monkeys would all be in the 10 I would use to describe myself:
Imaginative, responsible, humorous, witty, curious, clever, sneaky
(If you are curious, I personally would top off the aforementioned 10 with something like: goofy, impatient, awkward)
"Monkeys can run circles around other people with ease. They are curious and clever people who catch on quickly to most anything. Monkey people generally can accomplish any given task. They appreciate difficult or challenging work as it stimulates them and makes them think. Monkeys are fun-loving people who really enjoy a good time with friends, family or anyone else for that matter. They love practical jokes and like to play tricks on colleagues and friends alike. Monkeys tend to stir up trouble simply out of boredom, which can end up being more hurtful than they intended. Often, when this causes trouble, they expect others to understand it was all a joke and to deal with the consequences on their own. The Chinese say Monkey's are just downright curious. Although gifted with a strong intellect, creativity and intuition are nor their fortes. They can't put themselves in your shoes even if they try and will become easily distracted or confused."
HEALTH
Monkeys believe being sick is a waste of time. They don't want to spend their days in bed. They want to experiencing the flavors of life. Usually, Monkeys are very healthy creatures, partly due to their active lifestyles. If they do experience illness, it is usually of the nervous or circulatory system.
AT HOME WITH THE MONKEY
Most Monkeys enjoy the activity offered by the city life rather than the quiet and tranquility offered in a more rural lifestyle. They crave being in the middle of things, enjoying life from a spectator's view. They also enjoy people-watching and can amuse themselves for hours at a time by just watching the people walk by. They need a view, and their homes are usually filled with windows and picturesque drawings.
THE MONKEY AT WORK
A Monkey's good memory and his ability to adapt are two of his most prized possessions. He is intelligent and stoic, able to pick new trades up quickly and easily. Monkeys are also able to do all the work in half the time it takes someone else, but will charge you double what someone else would charge. As such, Monkeys generally take occupations in the world of finance, such as banking, stock exchange or accounting.
MONEY AND THE MONKEY
Monkeys are just as good as spending money as they are at making it. They can't really save it because it burns a hole in their pockets. Occasionally though, Monkeys should put a little away today for an emergency tomorrow.
More specifically, I am a "Metal Monkey" THE METAL MONKEY 1920 AND 1980
Persuasive and passionate, this Monkey is a warm person. She is successful due to her innate determination and ambitious nature. In love these Monkeys are just and loyal as well as loving and affectionate.
Lastly, in the process of reading about my mokeyness I found what Monkey's dislike and completely embarrassed myself by laughing out loud in the very silent coffee shop where I am currently writing... why laugh, you ask? This could not be more true!!!
Monkeys Dislike: Being told to be quiet, not being the most popular, people who don't like their jokes.
I am pretty sure these three things in combination have been the cause of almost every one of my prior work or school conflicts - as well as past relationships ending! If only we had all known.......
1. My birthday (aka birthweek or birthmonth; this year spanning from Jan 27 to Feb 10)
2. Chinese New Year (aka Spring Festival; this year beginning Feb 14).
Not only because today is my birthday but also because this is MY blog, for this post I am going to talk all about ME! (some of you are saying: "what's new?" right?)
I have spent a decade now as an independent adult. Most of this entails making bad decisions and big mistakes. But through all of that I've seemed to become more and more satisfied, happy, at peace, and closer to my goal of being a wise old woman who makes the world a better place. Is it just me or do other people not have these sort of goals? Am I in a minority of people who chose to assess their life in the amount of time I can laugh with someone in a day? Or am I just crazy? A crazy wise old happy woman is a fine goal to have.
I was lying in bed last night thinking about this last decade of my life. I was wondering how one sums up a life; a decade; a year. But more importantly I was curious to know how other people do this. As a scientist I automatically want to break it down into parts - Is life to be qualitatively or quantitatively assessed? How should it be analyzed? It seems to me like many people determine 'success' and quality of life based on quantitative measurements: how much money they have accrued; how many friends they have; how many places they've been to visit; how many shoes they have; their education; their job's status; how much they weight, etc. I think this is both ridiculous and useless as it neither reflects a person's success nor happiness.
So then, if I vehemently disagree with this method of judgment, how then do I think one can assess these things? How can we qualitatively assess a year; a decade; a life? I read an article a while ago about the "World's Happiest People". Along with being a very healthy person, I'd have to say a very prominent focus I have for my life is to be one of these sickeningly happy people. The thing is, everyone attains happiness in a different way, right? Furthermore, how can it really be qualitatively analyzed? Like, how do I even know if I am happy or not?
Well, some hot shots are already on it. Below, the happiest countries are in blue, the least happy are in red.
The first place I found reports on happiness indices was of course wikipedia GNH
GNH (gross national happiness) is ideal in my opinion because it is more qualitative.
"GNH refers to the concept of a measurement of well-being and happiness. It is not measured directly, but only the factors which are believed to lead to it. There is no exact quantitative definition of GNH, but elements that contribute to GNH are subject to quantitative measurement. Low rates of infant mortality, for instance, correlate positively with subjective expressions of well-being or happiness within a country. (This makes sense; it is no large leap to assume that premature death causes sorrow.) The practice of social science has long been directed toward transforming subjective expression of large numbers of people into meaningful quantitative data; there is no major difference between asking people "how confident are you in the economy?" and "how satisfied are you with your job?"
The GNH guys have come up with a way to measure happiness. "GNH can be measured using the day reconstruction method, which consists in recollecting memories of the previous working day by writing a short diary. A second-generation GNH concept, treating happiness as a socioeconomic development metric, was proposed in 2006 by Med Jones, the President of International Institute of Management. The metric measures socioeconomic development by tracking 7 development area including the nation's mental and emotional health. GNH value is proposed to be an index function of the total average per capita of the following measures:
1. Economic Wellness: Indicated via direct survey and statistical measurement of economic metrics such as consumer debt, average income to consumer price index ratio and income distribution
2. Environmental Wellness: Indicated via direct survey and statistical measurement of environmental metrics such as pollution, noise and traffic
3. Physical Wellness: Indicated via statistical measurement of physical health metrics such as severe illnesses
4. Mental Wellness: Indicated via direct survey and statistical measurement of mental health metrics such as usage of antidepressants and rise or decline of psychotherapy patients
5. Workplace Wellness: Indicated via direct survey and statistical measurement of labor metrics such as jobless claims, job change, workplace complaints and lawsuits
6. Social Wellness: Indicated via direct survey and statistical measurement of social metrics such as discrimination, safety, divorce rates, complaints of domestic conflicts and family lawsuits, public lawsuits, crime rates
7. Political Wellness: Indicated via direct survey and statistical measurement of political metrics such as the quality of local democracy, individual freedom, and foreign conflicts.
And just when I started thinking facebook is my friend again, I came
across this article on how facebook uses our information to chart a
country's happiness. This article only focused on the US and along with the graph above summarized facebook's findings by
saying, "Despite a deepening recession and prolonged wars, Americans
seemed to be happier in 2009 than 2008." This to me is slightly frightening but mostly pure entertainment....I mean, one of your happiest days of the year was when pirates were killed? Gotta love America.
Ok, so we are getting somewhere here. A way to analyze our success in life which to me means our happiness. The term 'well-being' is also thrown out there in the literature regarding happiness and success.
Check out this Wired article on the true measure of success or The New York time's Blog
Then there is this map (similar to the one above) I stumbled upon on each country's average well beings.
"The first World Map of Happiness has been published by scholars from the University of Leicester. The map is a global projection of subjective well-being (SWB), taken from a variety of recent sources, and compared with related data from UNESCO, the UN and even the CIA."
Last and certainly not least (I've been building up to this...hope you are not bored yet) the most brilliant of all:
The World's Data Base for Happiness From which one can learn that "Happiness is defined as the degree to which an individual judges the overall quality of his life-as-a-whole favorably. Within this concept two 'components' of happiness are distinguished: hedonic level of affect (the degree to which pleasant affect dominates) and contentment (perceived realization of wants). These components represent respectively 'affective' and 'cognitive' appraisals of life and are seen to figure as subtotals in the overall evaluation of life, called overall happiness."
The most interesting part of this site to me is on a global level looking at the maps
I know, I am a total nerd. Hey, it makes me happy!
Ok, so there are brilliant minds out there who've figured out how to measure and quantify our happiness as nations and the like. But then I wonder if happiness is also linked to brain chemicals; foods/drinks; environment and other such things slightly out of our control. I feel a bit guilty (I learned at a very young age that most people don't like happy people) when I say this but I kinda feel like I am just born to be happy. Or born to see the glass half full. Is it just easier for me than it is for other people? a ted talk if you are super-bored by now
Which brings me to my second point of today: Chinese New Year.
But more importantly, how Chinese New Year relates to ME....
I am a monkey based on the Chinese zodiac. It is frightening how bang-on a history of 5,000 years of observation can be....There isn't a single word I would disagree with in the information below. And if you disagree with some of it, well, frankly, you don't know me well.
Here are Jasmine and I being monkeys.
The 7 words used to describe Monkeys would all be in the 10 I would use to describe myself: Imaginative, responsible, humorous, witty, curious, clever, sneaky
(If you are curious, I personally would top off the aforementioned 10 with something like: goofy, impatient, awkward)
"Monkeys can run circles around other people with ease. They are curious and clever people who catch on quickly to most anything. Monkey people generally can accomplish any given task. They appreciate difficult or challenging work as it stimulates them and makes them think. Monkeys are fun-loving people who really enjoy a good time with friends, family or anyone else for that matter. They love practical jokes and like to play tricks on colleagues and friends alike. Monkeys tend to stir up trouble simply out of boredom, which can end up being more hurtful than they intended. Often, when this causes trouble, they expect others to understand it was all a joke and to deal with the consequences on their own. The Chinese say Monkey's are just downright curious. Although gifted with a strong intellect, creativity and intuition are nor their fortes. They can't put themselves in your shoes even if they try and will become easily distracted or confused."
HEALTH
Monkeys believe being sick is a waste of time. They don't want to spend their days in bed. They want to experiencing the flavors of life. Usually, Monkeys are very healthy creatures, partly due to their active lifestyles. If they do experience illness, it is usually of the nervous or circulatory system.
AT HOME WITH THE MONKEY
Most Monkeys enjoy the activity offered by the city life rather than the quiet and tranquility offered in a more rural lifestyle. They crave being in the middle of things, enjoying life from a spectator's view. They also enjoy people-watching and can amuse themselves for hours at a time by just watching the people walk by. They need a view, and their homes are usually filled with windows and picturesque drawings.
THE MONKEY AT WORK
A Monkey's good memory and his ability to adapt are two of his most prized possessions. He is intelligent and stoic, able to pick new trades up quickly and easily. Monkeys are also able to do all the work in half the time it takes someone else, but will charge you double what someone else would charge. As such, Monkeys generally take occupations in the world of finance, such as banking, stock exchange or accounting.
MONEY AND THE MONKEY
Monkeys are just as good as spending money as they are at making it. They can't really save it because it burns a hole in their pockets. Occasionally though, Monkeys should put a little away today for an emergency tomorrow.
More specifically, I am a "Metal Monkey" THE METAL MONKEY 1920 AND 1980
Persuasive and passionate, this Monkey is a warm person. She is successful due to her innate determination and ambitious nature. In love these Monkeys are just and loyal as well as loving and affectionate.
Lastly, in the process of reading about my mokeyness I found what Monkey's dislike and completely embarrassed myself by laughing out loud in the very silent coffee shop where I am currently writing... why laugh, you ask? This could not be more true!!!
Monkeys Dislike: Being told to be quiet, not being the most popular, people who don't like their jokes.
I am pretty sure these three things in combination have been the cause of almost every one of my prior work or school conflicts - as well as past relationships ending! If only we had all known.......
